Ask yourself, is the president of a country equal to a blue-collar worker who works in a private company? Or is the general of an army equal to a soldier?
Before you start throwing rotten tomatoes at me, please hear me out.
I still recall the feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment when I got my visa approved to travel to the United States.
I was only 22 years old, in my 3rd year at the University, learning how to become a teacher. An ambitious young man who was full of hopes yet not much to show for in his resume.
I couldn’t believe that I was about to embark on the most exciting journey of my life, solo, without my parents or brother holding my hand. I was headed to the land of opportunities, to the land of Equals.
Fast forward 15 years, and here I am, in my private office, writing on the subject after my staff has left for the day, in the quietness of my room while listening to the whispering fan sound of my laptop, which goes on and off every so often.
I can’t remember, till these days, how many times I have heard the phrase, mostly from fellow immigrants, saying “Dude, we are in America. We are all equals over here!”
But are we really equal?
I say there is no such thing as equality. Humankind is built on hierarchy.
Those who know me personally know that I am a strong advocate for fundamental human rights equality, such as; right for freedom, life, expression of opinion, right to work and study, right to love, and the list goes on.
Let’s take a quick dive into our history to analyze. From the ancient times of Matriarchy to the times of Patriarchy and beyond, there has always been a role for leadership. Someone who had more responsibility, respect, authority, and power than the rest.
After all, isn’t that why Presidents, CEOs, managers still exist? Take a country, for example, or a company. There is a role for everyone.
As an example, use the captain of a ship. The captain makes the final calls. A crew-member or a passenger has a right to stay and sail with the ship or leave it. Yet the captain is the one who is in charge of the ship, for everyone on board, and the ship itself.
The same can be said about the country, a company, or a family.
If we are all equals, our jobs and livelihoods are equal, who would stay and work after hours, on holidays and at the weekends? Who would think more trying to find a solution to a problem? Who would take more risk, and for what?
We all know what has happened to socialism.
Yes, I agree that the world is ever-changing. So does everything and everyone along with it. Indeed, not willing to change is not a good thing, either. We can’t act or think as we did when we were back home. However, let’s don’t completely lose ourselves trying to change and adapt to our new lifestyle.
As a client of mine told me: “America – is not a melting pot! It’s a salad bar”
Listen to those words. There is so much wisdom in it! America is truly not a melting pot where all cultures, personalities, characters melt and become one, generic. It’s the exact opposite of it. We all bring in our uniqueness, flavors, bitterness, vitamins, and give this awesome salad, even a better taste!
I know it will sound cliche, America is said to be the land of opportunities where an immigrant like me can build an empire despite having just $200, in total, upon arrival. Fast forward a decade to now, I co/manage several entities (Real Estate, Home Improvement, Janitorial Cleaning) which are doing exceptionally well.
As you already know that we, as immigrants, have the advantage to compare both worlds, and by doing so, we can and must keep on training our gratitude.
“A positive mindset and outlook can and will lead you a lot further versus the one where you continuously focus on the negatives”
The goal is to be/stay in a problem-solving state as opposed to a whining and complaining mode.
As Chuck R. Swindoll said: “We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”
“If you don’t plant the mental and physiological seeds of the results you want, weeds will grow automatically. If we don’t consciously direct our own minds and states, our environment may produce undesirable or haphazard states… Thus it’s critical that — on a daily basis — we stand guard at the door of our mind, that we know how we are consistently representing things to ourselves. We must daily weed our garden.” — Tony Robbins, Unlimited Power, p.46
Keep in mind what truly made you is your past. It’s your background. Regardless of how easy or bitter it was, it has shaped you to become you. This is precisely why you are who you are.
Turn your so-called “weaknesses” to your strengths. In this brief video, @Dean Graziosi explains that having an immigrant mentality is actually advantageous
Think about it, would you have the same friends if your past would have been different? Would the same person who you fell in love with pick you too had your character and attitude been different? Would you even look interesting to someone special had you been exactly the same as everyone else? Do you really want to live in a country where all look, live, talk, behave exactly the same?
I want to suggest we bring in the best out of us. Let’s don’t forget our heritage! Remember our history! And based on our background and the accumulated knowledge, let us do our best to contribute to this amazing country so that we can make it even a better place.
My point is, let’s don’t abuse the word. Let’s be mindful of it. After all, we are in America now!